你有成為贏家的條件嗎？──全球衝浪冠軍教我的五堂課
劉道薇／Generation Slashie 2015/08/26
每個人都想出類拔萃，但不是人人都有條件。想要成為贏家，光靠專業、技術是不夠的，你還需要有贏家的「心態」。
過去幾年，因為在澳洲經營的社群 LGBD（Little Girl Big Dream），我很幸運地透過演講邀約、業師計畫等活動，認識了不少澳洲最具代表性的成功企業家，他們也大方地分享了自己職涯中的成功經驗和心得。
最近，我則開始邀請運動員，談談贏的藝術。因為我知道，世界上大概沒有什麼職業，像專業運動員一樣如此頻繁地面對輸贏、並且深深理解勝利的喜悅和失敗的痛苦。
我請來的專業運動員，名字叫萊恩（Layne Beachley），她是全澳洲最有名的體壇菁英之一，也是全球唯一奪得 7 項世界冠軍的女性衝浪選手。在她身上，我學到珍貴的 5 堂課，也改變了我對追求成功的心法。在此分享給大家：
1. 80/20 法則新詮釋
許多成功運動員和企業家發現，80/20 法則的新解，在於「贏家的誕生，80% 靠意志力，只有 20% 是來自專業能力。」尤其在專業菁英領域的競爭，彼此競爭力、技巧高下差異不大；最後決定勝負的，往往是讓贏家能夠突破極限的意志。因此，不論在哪個產業、專業領域或環境下，想求勝，第一步都是建立起好「贏家的心態」。
2. 確定動機再行動
若不知為何而戰，討論贏家心態也是枉然。每個人都有求勝的意願，但通常冠軍們更需要比求勝還強烈的動機。唯有清晰明確的目標和遠景，才會帶來長遠的成功、而非短暫的勝利。不只是為了追求更好的生活、更成功的生意或職涯，他們清楚知道自己為何而戰。所以，先認清並堅定你追求成功的動機吧！這將有助於你面對競爭的抗壓性和意志力。
3. 努力「化缺陷為精彩」（Flawsome）
對多數人來說，Flawsome 這個詞可能既新奇又怪異。近來許多時尚品牌崇尚「忠於自我」(Authenticity)，然而「化缺陷為精彩」但這個想法更進一步：與其拒絕，抗拒和無視我們的缺陷，不如正視且利用它們，讓自己變得更完美。化缺陷為精彩，首先需要認清自己的缺點，坦誠的面對它們，接著擬定一套完善的計畫逐步改正。我們從不完美，但永遠可以截長補短、不斷精進。
4. 不斷進步，比追求完美重要
我們大都不自覺地花上大把時間和精神，追求能帶來無比成就感、但往往難以達成的重大突破和成就。但若我們只專注於追求重大成就，很可能會因此持續面臨失望與挫折，並且忽略了雖然渺小、卻能逐步打下成功基礎的進步過程。調整自己的心態吧！「積小勝為大勝」的思維其實更能讓你維持動力，並且專注於眼前的工作。那怕再微小，別忘了每天花點時間，確認自己進步了多少。
5. 「我們」比「我」重要
邁向勝利不必是條孤獨的旅程，今日我們對勝利的定義，不再僅限於於個人，個人的成功更不該建築在他人的失敗上。依據我的經驗，經常幫助別人者往往到最後成為最有成就的人。建立人脈是邁向成功的關鍵之一，打造一個互相合作的網絡，不只能幫助你達成自己的目標、更能激勵他人。不妨想想，我們如何和夥伴甚至競爭對手合作，追求雙贏或多贏？
最後，這裡有個小小的自我診斷，可以幫助你了解，自己是否建立了贏家該有的心態：
◆ 我贏你輸 你是否經常和他人比較，並且認為成功必須建立在他人的失敗之上？對你而言，成功是否重要？
◆ 雙方皆輸 你是否認為，自己無法成就任何豐功偉業，別人也理所當然地辦不到？你經常負面思考嗎？你是否會批評對自己人生有遠大計畫的人？你是否因為遇到挫折而放棄再次嘗試？
◆ 雙方皆贏 你是否有遠大的夢想？你是否相信自己有能力達成這個夢想？你是否了解，自己的成功並非仰仗他人的失敗，反而是建立在他人的成功之上？
你是否已經準備好，重新調整心態，成為贏家了呢？
Do you have what it takes to win?──5 lessons on winning that I learnt from a world champion surfer
Everyone wants to win. Everyone wants to come out on top. But not everyone has what it takes. Winning requires more than skills and expertise, it requires a winning mindset.
Over the years, through the network that I run across Australia (Little Girl Big Dream), we’ve had the privilege of hosting some of Australia’s most iconic business executives as our speakers and program mentors. They come in to share their career journey, success stories and lessons they have learnt along the way. But it wasn’t until recently, that I engaged an athlete for the first time, to speak about the art of winning.
I knew that I wanted to hear from an athlete because no one probably faces the stakes of winning and losing as much as they do on a daily basis, because winning and losing is probably more critical in their world than in any other profession and I knew that they would have a powerful perspective to share because no one could probably comprehend the joy of winning and the pain of losing as intimately as a professional athlete.
Her name is Layne Beachley, one of Australia’s most elite athletes, the first female surfer to claim 7 world champion titles. Here are some valuable lessons from her that have transformed my approach to winning–
1. The 80/20 Rule
A rule followed by many successful athletes and business leaders finds winning is 80% mental and 20% physical. This is especially true when you're competing at an elite level, as it is the mindset, not necessarily the technical competency or skills that will get you over the edge. No matter what industry or circumstances you find yourself in, the first step to win is to build a winning mindset.
2. Start with a purpose
We can't discuss a winning mindset without talking about defining your why. There is always the motivation of wanting to win, everybody has that, but champions need an attitude that includes a level of motivation that goes above and beyond winning. It's with this sense of purpose and clarity that you can then begin the journey to achieve what you desire from your life, business or career, and enjoy longevity in your success. So start by identifying the reasons that drive you to succeed. This sense of purpose will directly impact your resilience and mental toughness.
3. Get “Flawsome” For most of us, this one will sound new and strange. "Authenticity" has been the buzzword for brands over the past few years, but this idea of "flawsome" takes it to the next level. Instead of denying, resisting and ignoring our flaws, we can use them to be "awesome". This involves complete self-awareness of your shortcomings, acknowledging the reality of such flaws, being transparent about these flaws and forming a plan for dealing with them. We aren't perfect, but it's about knowing your strengths and playing to them.
4. Pursue progression over perfection Most of us instinctively spend a lot of time and energy seeking the big breakthroughs, moments that are incredibly satisfying, yet extremely hard to come by. They're called breakthroughs because they're rare. Focusing only on the breakthroughs can lead to constant disappointment and frustration, and cause you to lose sight of the smaller, incremental improvements that will form the building blocks of your success. The payoffs of a "small win" mindset are that you can stay more motivated and focused on the present. So seek and acknowledge small improvements one day at a time.
5. Go for “we” over “me” Winning does not have to be a lonely journey; the traditional notion of winning as a solo pursuit may no longer be the case today. Think about how can we collaborate with each other to win? Relationship building is key to winning, and winning does not and should not have to depend on other people's failures. People who generally support others to succeed are often the ones who become the most successful. We need to build a supportive network that can hold you accountable to your goals and stimulate one another.
Finally, here is a quick self-diagnosis to assess which mindset best describes you–
◎ Win/Lose Do you compare yourself to other people all the time and believe that in order to succeed others must fail? To you, is success relative?
◎ Lose/Lose Do you think you can never achieve anything worthwhile, so why should others? Is negativity the order of the day for you? Do you criticise people who have great plans for life? Do you feel you have tried already and it didn't work so why try again?
◎ Win/Win Do you dream? Do you believe that you are capable and will succeed? Do you realize that your success does not depend on other people's failure and that to the contrary, your success depends on other people's success?
Now, do you have what it takes to win?
